RelationshipScan

A reflection tool, not a verdict

Know what's really
going on.

We read your chat the way a couples therapist would: patterns, intentions, what's missing.

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GottmanAttachmentNVCSchemaEFT
Saturday, 11:42 pmAnalyzing
I just need some space right now.
Withdrawal · Avoidant pattern
You always shut me out when it matters.
Criticism · Four Horsemen
Maybe I do. I don't know what to say when you cry.
Repair attempt · Soft start
Connection Score62 / 100

The questions you keep asking

You already know the conversation matters.
You just can't read it alone.

Is this a red flag or am I overthinking?

Friends pick a side. Reddit picks a side. You keep rereading the messages waiting for the truth to surface.

ChatGPT just tells me I'm right.

Generic AI mirrors how you frame the question. You end up with the answer you wanted, not the one you needed.

Was I the problem?

You replay the fight. You can't tell who started the spiral or whether you missed every chance to repair it.

How it works

Three steps. No verdict. A real read.

Most reports take less than three minutes from upload to read.

  1. 01

    Upload the conversation.

    WhatsApp export, plain text, or paste from your phone. Whatever you have. Nothing is shared with anyone else.

  2. 02

    Five frameworks read both sides.

    Gottman, Attachment, NVC, Schema, EFT. Every message runs through each lens. Yours included.

  3. 03

    Read a structured report.

    Connection Score, named patterns, warning signs, repair moments, and what to do with it. No verdict. Language for you to think with.

What the report is built on

Five frameworks. One conversation.

Each framework names something a friend cannot. Together, they show the conversation you keep rereading.

01

Gottman

Warning signs

Detects the Four Horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling. Notes who tends to introduce each, and when.

02

Attachment Theory

Reaching, pulling away

Maps how each of you moves toward closeness or distance under stress. Avoidant, anxious, secure, or somewhere in between.

03

Nonviolent Communication

Hidden needs

Surfaces the unmet needs underneath the accusations. What was actually being asked for, even when it sounded like an attack.

04

Schema Therapy

Recurring patterns

Names the emotional script playing out underneath the fight. The same loop you keep getting stuck inside.

05

Emotion Focused Therapy

Repair and bids

Identifies repair attempts and missed bids for connection. The small moments that could have changed the conversation.

A look at the report

One conversation.
One honest read.

Every report ties named patterns to direct quotes from your chat. No generic personality test. No score-and-share. The evidence stays in plain sight, beside the analysis.

  • Connection Score with the reasoning behind it
  • Attachment archetype for both of you
  • Warning signs ranked by severity, with quotes
  • Repair moments and missed bids for connection
  • Practical suggestions you can use this week
Communication Health IndexSample report
62/ 100Strained, repairable

Both of you are still reaching for each other, but the bids land sideways. Repair attempts exist (three this week) and they are quickly overruled by criticism before either person can soften.

High severityFour Horsemen

Criticism, recurring on Partner B

"You always shut me out when it matters."

Generalised attacks ("always", "never") show up six times in the last two weeks of messages. The receiving partner consistently withdraws rather than responding to the underlying need.

Attachment archetypesEFT lens
Partner A
The Pursuer

Anxious, reaches harder when reassurance is missing.

Partner B
The Withdrawer

Avoidant, retreats inward to regulate before responding.

Pricing

Pay once. No subscription. No surprise.

Start with Pulse to see how the tool reads your chat. Upgrade to Full if you want the deeper analysis. Pack 3 is there if you'll read more than one conversation.

PulseTripwire
€3.99one report

A quick honest read. Start here if you've never used the tool.

  • Connection Score with reasoning
  • Two key warning signs
  • Three actionable insights
FullMost chosen
€14.99one report

The complete read. All five frameworks, with quotes and repair moments.

  • Everything in Pulse
  • Full breakdown across all 5 frameworks
  • Attachment archetype for both of you
  • Repair moments and missed bids
  • Practical next steps
Pack 3Best value
€29.99three reports

Compare conversations across weeks, or read multiple relationships.

  • Three Full reports
  • 33% off per report
  • Credits don't expire

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How we hold what you share

Read carefully. Then decide.

Your chat is deleted after analysis.
We need the conversation to generate the report. Once the report is built, the original chat is removed from our servers. Only the report stays in your account, visible only to you.
We don't tell you whether to stay or leave.
The report names patterns and shows evidence. It does not deliver a verdict on the relationship. The decision is always yours.
This is a reflection tool, not therapy.
RelationshipScan is built on therapy-informed frameworks but does not replace a licensed therapist. If you are in crisis, please reach out to a professional.

Common questions

Before you upload anything.

Is my conversation private?

Yes. The chat is processed to generate the report and then deleted from our servers. Only the final report is saved to your account, visible only to you. Your conversation is never shared, never sold, never used to train models.

Will it tell me to break up?

No. The report names patterns, warning signs, repair moments, and what each side is communicating. It does not deliver a verdict on the relationship. The decision is always yours.

Why not just use ChatGPT?

ChatGPT gives you an opinion shaped by how you frame the question. RelationshipScan runs your chat through five named clinical frameworks (Gottman, Attachment, NVC, Schema, EFT) in a consistent workflow and returns a structured report with named patterns and direct quotes from the conversation. It is the difference between asking a friend who read one psychology book and getting an analysis built from named frameworks.

Is the analysis biased toward whoever uploads?

No. The report reads both sides of the conversation. If your messages contributed to the spiral, the report names that too. Honesty is the point of using the tool.

Can I analyze an ex or someone I just started dating?

Yes. Past relationships and active dating chats are both common use cases. The same frameworks apply. Many people use the tool to understand a pattern they keep repeating with different partners.

What format does the chat need to be in?

Plain text (.txt) or a WhatsApp export. You can also paste the conversation directly. Make sure the messages are roughly in order; the more context you can paste, the more accurate the read.

How long does an analysis take?

Most reports take less than three minutes from upload to read.

The reading you've been doing alone

Stop guessing what they meant.
Read it honestly, once.

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